It is very important to learn what are stress, its root cause and its effects, for motivation on how to prevent it, how to manage it and how to control prolonged stress. The fact is, we create our own stress. Initial stress is a wake-up call for boosting our energy level as we have discussed previously in Â“The Good and Bad Effects of Stress and Decision Making.Â” But to sustain stress is awful and frightening.
COPING WITH STRESS: THOUGHTFUL SCHEMES AND PRACTICAL APPLICATION
It is very important to learn what are stress, its root cause and its effects, for motivation on how to prevent it, how to manage it and how to control prolonged stress. The fact is, we create our own stress. Initial stress is a wake-up call for boosting our energy level as we have discussed previously in “The Good and Bad Effects of Stress and Decision Making.” But to sustain stress is awful and frightening. Here are some thoughtful strategies on how we can handle prolonged stress;
? Behavioral Practice session
? Cognitive Reconstruction
? Stress / Anger Management
? Thought Stopping methods
? Self-esteem Enhancement and Setting Goal
? Dynamic Introspection
? Schemes for Coping Deprivational Stress
? Changing Lifestyles
Therapeutic action to control stress falls into three categories: change your thoughts, change your behavior and change your lifestyle.
Change your Thoughts: It is a method used to change the way we look at things in order to feel better about them. The key to thought changing is to recognize that there are many ways to interpret the same situation. Learn to take away negative thoughts or feeling that can result in stresses. There are three simple ways;
? Focus more on the positive things in your life.
? Eliminate the negative thoughts.
? Think and enjoy the affirmative views in life.
For instance, if you have got into an accident, you may thank God that you have escaped with only minor injuries. You could have been killed, or worse, you could have been maimed – lost eyes, feet, hands, etc. You could have been comatose, paralyzed or become vegetable for life.
Religiosity and spirituality can be a great coping mechanism. For example, religion teaches us that everything happens for a purpose or your karma. You just leave the things to the will of God to straighten out. The result is that your brain does not have to pump out adrenaline to your bloodstream constantly. You feel relaxed. There is no prolonged stress any more.
Positive Thinking: Avoid negative thoughts of powerlessness, dejection, failure, and despair. Chronic stress makes us vulnerable to negative suggestion. Focus on positive inputs.
? Focus on your strengths
? Learn from stress
? Seek for opportunities in the stressful position
? Look out the positive and make a change
Here is one way to get out of the destructive negative thinking habits. All possible situations we face can be classified into two categories:
There are positive situations where we can do something about to change the outcome. Don’t just be passive and worry about it. You have control, move on and take care of it. Procrastination is the root cause for many stressful episodes.
There are negative situations where you have no control on the situation and the outcome. Don’t worry about it. Let the situation resolve by itself; you are not in control and cannot do anything about this anyway.
Dean Ornish talked about how our culture teaches us to dwell on the high stress activities. He gave this example: Two Arabs took their Mercedes car out for a spin in the desert. Although there probably was not another car in the 10-mile radius, these two guys managed to have a head-on collision. Now, if this happened in the US or many other parts of the world, the drivers will be getting out of the car and showering each other with abuses, threats and remind the other person how stupid he was to cause the accident. What did the Arabs do after they had their cars totaled? They rush out of their cars, run to each other; hugs and says, "This is great! Allah, wanted us to meet."
In every events and situations, the key to moving on is forgiveness -- of self and others. It is human nature to worry about future events over which we have no control; it is a waste of time and energy. Plan and prioritize as best you can, and then be easy on yourself as to have a clear decision-making. The future is far more to happen. Start by recognizing and accepting when a situation is beyond your control.
Another important sense is the sense of humor. In breathing new life into the old wisdom that "laughter is the best medicine," humor is a very important therapy for reducing stress.
Note: Choose Life! “Human life is meant for thoughtfulness.”
Ronthoughts Journal – Life